Remember Why You Found Each Other
Trends are an interesting thing. Take fashion for example. What’s trendy one day, is outdated the next and often replaced by the next ‘trendy’ thing that also becomes outdated. Like a cycle of seasons, or an economy… What is deemed to be great and amazing one day often replaced by the next shiny thing the next day as the cycle moves on.
And this leads into our satisfaction or dissatisfaction in life around our relationships and cashflow. One day we are happy living life to the fullest with our partner going out for lunch, buying that warm winter jacket, and taking advantage of all the good things that life offers without a care in the world, to the realisation of the next day when reality hits and our bills are due.
The fun we had with our partner the day before is reflected upon us in the present moment with an emotion of guilt, of disappointment, and of resentment. Conversations begin to start with ‘we didn’t need to spend that’ or ‘why did you buy that?’ and your relationship moves from love for one another, to blaming one another.
It is at this point that our happiness erodes, and we start stressing.
And as arguments around money enter your relationship, love exits.
Your mind attaches onto all the bad things that are happening in your mind – lack, guilt, disappointment all of which become your new point of attraction. The universal law of attraction recognises your point of attraction and begins delivering to you more of what you are asking for – lack, guilt, and disappointment, and the pain and resentment gets worse.
You wonder why your partner doesn’t look at you the same way anymore and why you feel so stressed, so anxious around money.
Eventually your relationship ends.
A new relationship starts.
And a new trend begins.
Lessons that you didn’t learn with your partner the first time around repeat themselves. Akin to a simple wash, rinse, and repeat…
New arguments begin.
New guilt emerges.
New law of attraction delivers your new reality.
You feel jaded, frustrated, stuck with no clarity of how to move forward and figure ‘oh well, that’s life, this is just how it’s supposed to be.’
It isn’t.
It is at this point that you may not realise it but you missed the point, and you have lost the lesson.
When you take a step back to recognise that you are in a loop that does not reflect the life you want to live you have an amazing opportunity to decide to make a change, and when you do magic happens.
Conversations with your new or existing partner can raise to a new level.
Arguments about spending money can become a memory of the past.
Love has an opportunity to reemerge in your relationship.
And achieving (and smashing) your financial goals can be your vision for the future.
But only if you recognise the pattern you are in, and only if you BOTH choose to take action and change your trajectory.
Happiness need not be conditional – but simply a state of being, and with cashflow and relationship stress out of the way it can be your reality.
Life is too short to be spent living in lack and arguing with your partner over spending money. Get it together. Bring love back into the room. Watch your life soar.
And most importantly if this resonates with you, get in touch!
